Why So Insensitive? 

A few days ago I witnessed a very strange incident and I haven’t quite been able to shake it off. 

I can’t determine what’s bothering me more: the simple fact that it happened or the fact that I did not speak up when it did.

It was a boring, drab day just like any other. My batchmates and I were sitting on the uncomfortable metal chairs in the tiny classroom in the basement of the hospital building, waiting for the teacher to arrive and unwillingly impart her so called ‘wisdom and knowledge’ on us. The room was filled with the low chatter of girls engaging in mindless gossip. 

Suddenly one of the girls called out to another (Let’s call her X) and said, “Oh, remember when you wrote that letter about all the girls being mean to you and how that made you wanna leave college? And then our professor read it out loud in front of the whole class? That was so funny!” This was followed by a unanimous  eruption of laughter and then everyone proceeded to recall details and make jokes about the letter and that whole drama that happened way back when we were freshman. 

A little backstory on X and why she wrote that letter:

Everyone goes through a bit of a tough adaptation at the start of college because you’ve been plucked out of your comfort zone and put in a brand new place with brand new people and you have to make your place and find like-minded people and all that. X had a slightly tougher time than most of us and she was relentlessly bullied by everyone for quite some time. After a while, we discovered she had been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and was taking very high dose medication. The bullying might have dulled down a bit, but even then it definitely did not stop. Neither did the inappropriate remarks made about X behind her back. As a result, the past 5 years haven’t exactly been the easiest for X. She has had to take several months off every academic year because she simply couldn’t get out of bed but despite all that she is still sitting right next to all of us, ready to take the last set of exams that will conclude our journey through medschool. 

So, since when is it okay to mock someone’s mental health like this? And that too, so openly to their face. It’s fucking ridiculous. 

I’m not saying that the girl who brought it up had any ill intentions or did it to deliberately hurt or humiliate X, but I do wonder what the fuck happened to her common sense. (No offense to her.)

Granted this is not something X looks back at with fond memories and I’m sure it’s not a pleasant topic to discuss for her, so why can’t we, as her peers, respect that? Why can we not respect her enough to encourage her rather than continuously remind her of what she has had to go through? Why is there such a lack of empathy in all of us? 

While this was all going on, I was so surprised at everyone’s reaction, including X who just continued to laugh everything off like it was no big deal. I kept waiting for someone to say how inappropriate it was, but no one did- not even me. I just sat there and watched it all happen; didn’t take part in any of it but did nothing to stop it either and I’m ashamed of myself for it. 

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One Day at a Time 

4:38 A.M.” read the clock on his side table as he lay wide-eyed in bed, staring blankly at those flashing red digits. 

“If I fall asleep in 10 minutes,” he thought, “I’ll manage to get around 2 hours of sleep. Yeah. That’s good enough.” But as much as he wanted to deny it, the deafening silence inside his head was adamant on making this yet another sleepless, thoughtless night. 

He turned over to his other side to face the window and saw the sun starting to rise, giving the sky a gorgeous, somber blue tinge. Seeing this view would always calm him, reminding him that it was a new day; another chance to start over. This sense of tranquility was always short lived, though. It was rudely  interrupted by his sneering conscience blocking out any ray of hope he felt. 

He closed his eyes and rolled onto his back, hoping this would hasten his descent into peaceful slumber only to be disappointed once again. He decided to distract his mind with happy thoughts of his niece’s 7th birthday party this coming weekend. He knew exactly what would make the perfect gift: the 3 storey Victorian Dollhouse she had been going on and on about for months. He couldn’t wait to see her face light up with joy after tearing the wrapping paper off. He truly loved that little girl with all his heart and wanted to do everything he could to make sure that she had the one thing he had been longing for his whole life: happiness

His train of thought was suddenly interrupted by the startling buzz of his alarm clock. He lay there for another minute as the alarm continued to fill the room with its cacophony. He tried to remember what day of the week it was, only to have his conscience scornfully remark, “Ha. Like it even matters.” 

He let out a long sigh and sluggishly made his way to the bathroom. As he brushed his teeth, he looked straight into his tired, red eyes and began to dread the long, monotonous charade that awaited him: his days were a haphazard blur of back to back classes and pointless afterschool extracurricular clubs. This is when his therapist’s words, which were now his mantra, echoed through his mind: “Just take it one day at a time.”

He finished buttoning his shirt up and took one last look in the mirror before leaving the house and quietly whispered, “One day at a time.

“Log Kia Kahein Ge?”

“Log Kia Kahein Ge?”

(Translation: “What will people say/think?”)

 

How many times have you been asked that question? Or how many times have you, consciously or subconsciously, asked yourself that question because it has been inculcated into your thought process without you realizing when or how?

We have grown so accustomed to living our lives the way we think we’re expected to live rather than how we actually want to live. In a society full of veli aunties waiting for you to make a “wrong move” so they can exploit you, it’s really difficult to stay true to yourself and be not only comfortable, but also confident in your own skin. There’s a constant fear lurking over your head causing you to second guess every decision you make: fear of being judged, fear of disappointing someone, fear of not being good enough.

It’s ironic that majority of the people who never overlook an opportunity to point fingers at you and humiliate you are guilty of the exact same things, if not more; hypocrites with a “holier than thou” attitude feigning perfectionism. But who is this facade for? At the end of the day does it really matter what another human being, who happens to be imperfect just like you, thinks about you or your life choices? No.

To quote Bob Marley,

“Who are you to judge the life I live? I know I’m not perfect – and I don’t live to be – but before you start pointing fingers, make sure your hands are clean!”

We all face our own struggles on a daily basis. No one’s life is perfect and problem-free. And it is human nature to make mistakes, so why are we so afraid of ourselves?
Rather than being over-critical of others’ we should focus our energy on bettering ourselves and correcting our flaws to the best of our abilities.

As much as we all wish it weren’t so, others will always have an opinion on your life but as long as you’re not lying to yourself and genuinely believe in whatever it is that you are doing, there’s no need to apologize for being who you are. How you choose to live your life only concerns you and you should never let anyone try and tell you otherwise.
Live & Let Live. 

Chocolate Oreo Layered Dessert

Last weekend my friends and I decided to let our inner master chefs out and put our cooking skills to the test. I was put in charge of dessert (because dessert is the best part, duh)

I decided to attempt to make a chocolate-oreo cheesecake and was so sure I would succeed. However, as fate had it, I ended up being way too short on time because I tend to leave everything till the last minute. As a result, I literally had two and a half hours to whip something up out of the few ingredients I had lying around at home: flour, chocolate chips, nutella, whipped cream, and a few random chocolate bars.

The end product, much to my surprise, was DIVINE! It turned out to be a sort of layered chocolate dessert, and it tasted like an explosion of chocolate heaven inside your mouth so naturally I just had to share this recipe with you guys!

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To break it down, there were 3 layers:

Layer 1(bottom): COOKIE DOUGH! (yaasssss)
Layer 2(middle): Oreos
Layer 3(top): Chocolate Cream

LAYER 1: COOKIE DOUGH

I generally almost always have the ingredients needed to make cookie dough from scratch at home, but you can always use store-bought dough as well if you find that easier.

For those of you who want to make it at home, this is a very simple recipe that I found somewhere on the internet ages ago and I’ve been using it ever since:

Ingredients:

  1. 200g butter.
  2. 1 cup brown sugar.
  3. 1 tablespoon white sugar
  4. 2 eggs.
  5. 1 teaspoon vanilla essence
  6. 2 cups all-purpose flour.
  7. 2 teaspoons baking powder.
  8. 1/2 cup Chocolate chips

Method:

  • Combine the butter, sugar (brown & white), eggs and the vanilla essence in a bowl and mix them well.
  • Combine the rest of the ingredients in a separate bowl and slowly add to the wet mixture and mix until your dough starts to form.
  • Add the chocolate chips and knead the dough
  • Cover it and set it aside for about 30 minutes.
  • Then take the pan you want to make and present your dessert in and spread the dough evenly at the bottom. Stick it into a preheated oven for about 15 minutes. (Notice how I did not mention the temperature at which I baked it and that’s because my oven is really old and doesn’t have a digital screen or anything which shows me the temperature. I usually keep it at the highest heat setting and keep an eye on the dough just to make sure it doesn’t burn!)

LAYER 2: Oreo’s

This is the simplest thing you need to do. Once your cookie dough is ready, layer Oreo’s on top while it’s still warm and soft. Make sure the Oreo’s are lined up as evenly as possible and, if you want, you can even make it a double layer!

*Extra tip: Unfortunately I thought of this idea after I had finished making the dessert, but you can also make a quick cup of black coffee and pour it evenly over the layer of Oreo’s so as to soak them well.*

LAYER 3: Chocolate Cream

So I hadn’t exactly thought the whole thing through when I started and this layer was the outcome of sheer desperation- but it turned out to be the perfect finishing touch; just what the dessert needed to be complete.

All you need:

  1.  A can of whipped cream or 2 packs of fresh cream (full-fat)
  2. 5-6 generous tablespoons of Nutella
  3. About 300g of milk chocolate

All you need to do:

  • Put the milk chocolate in a bowl and melt it in the microwave. (Be careful not to leave it in the microwave for too long because it will burn)
  • Add the cream and Nutella to the melted chocolate and mix it well until all three ingredients are combined to form a thick, smooth and silky paste.
  • Pour it evenly over the oreos, making sure the whole layer is covered.
  • Sprinkle some crushed oreos on top to finish it off.

 

 

 

TADA!

Yup, it’s really that simple!

Stick it in the fridge for about an hour before you have to serve it and you’re golden!

Feel free to add more layers or change it up however you want but do try and make it because you definitely will not be sorry!

 

Bon Appétit! 🙂

 

Healthy Mind, Happy You.

Can we just take a minute to think about the lack of awareness there is when it comes to mental health?
It really upsets me that majority of the people either do not take mental health issues seriously or have a very dismissive attitude towards them.

What exactly is mental health?
The most commonly used definition is “it’s a level of psychological well-being, or an absence of mental illness”

But I feel that’s a bit of an oversimplification.

If you sit down to think about what that really means, you’ll find that mental health is the backbone of our general emotional and social well-being. It is an essential factor in determining the quality of life we live and how well we are able to move around as a healthy & productive member of society. It has a direct effect on our relationships, career, and even our physical health. More importantly, it determines how comfortable you feel inside your own head.

Today’s day & age is one where life has become very fast-paced for most of us. We’re perpetually rushing to be one step ahead of time, but are somehow always in pursuit of the next ‘unattainable goal.’ Don’t get me wrong; it’s great to be motivated and keep working harder towards achieving your goals but at the same time I think this constant “need for more” eventually becomes detrimental to our sanity. Throughout the day, we’re busy with one thing or another; be it work/school/catching up with old friends/socializing. We’re constantly playing a “role” – the role of a student, a friend, a sister/brother, a daughter/son, etc. But how many times throughout the day are you actually just you? That might sound a little confusing, but bear with me. Have you ever thought about how many times in a day you allow yourself to be alone with your thoughts? Most people find it difficult to sit idle; the second we’re alone we immediately reach for our phones to check Facebook/Twitter/Instagram/etc for the millionth time in 5 minutes. (or actually, a lot of people don’t really care whether they’re alone or not) Our mind is always distracted by something so we’re never really just focusing on the present moment – on how we feel and what we’re really thinking about.

Unfortunately, this eventually leads to mental instability for some people. They become so disconnected from themselves that they find it difficult, or sometimes impossible, to continue on.

It’s important that we allow our minds to rest; find things that help you relax and give your brain a much-needed break from the constant hustle and bustle of everyday life. Just learning to focus on letting your brain “shut down” for a while so you can sort out your thoughts will do wonders for you, I promise! There’s no reason to be afraid of your own mind; you’re in charge and you control whatever goes on inside.

For starters, I’d suggest taking out 5 minutes everyday (Yup, even as little as 5 minutes a day will help!) to let yourself “zone out”. Use this time to do anything that you enjoy by yourself  that doesn’t involve you actively thinking about anything other than what is on your mind on that particular day. You’ll find that, with time, your stress levels will not be as high and you’ll be able to function more efficiently without being as tired and tense all the time.

 

First blog post

Hey there!

I’m new to this, so i’m not quite sure how i’m supposed to go about it…Soo, umm, “Welcome to my blog!” 🙂

This is something I’ve been wanting to do for quite a while, but I just kept putting it off because A) my middle name is ‘procrastinator’ & B) i’m not exactly the ‘greatest writer.’ That being said, I’ve now decided to use this as an opportunity to challenge myself and hopefully improve with time.

I don’t have a specific topic that I wanna write/talk about. I’m just looking to use this platform to give my thoughts and feelings an outlet. I’ll write about literally whatever is on my mind on a particular day.

Open to constructive criticism. 🙂

Hopefully you guys will enjoy my articles!